Losing a baby — either during pregnancy or after birth — is one of the most profoundly painful experiences a parent will ever endure. Yet these experiences are more common than most of us realize.
Megan Hillukka understands this because she has been there.
The sudden, unexpected passing of her daughter, Aria, shattered Megan’s world. The grief was overwhelming. Megan had a decision to make: Quit living life or find healing so that she could love life again. She chose to find healing.
Now as a grief coach and homeschool mom to five, Megan is on a mission to help other grieving moms find relief from their grief so that they can thrive again.
Megan’s story is one of resilience, strength, and healing. She shows it’s possible to find healing following a child’s death, and that it is possible to go on to live a happy, healthy life.
In This Episode, You’ll Discover:
- Megan’s experience with grief and trauma when her 3rd child died and how it affected her life
- what EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) means and how it works in healing trauma
- her CARRYING GRIEF framework and how she uses it to help guide moms through their grief
- what she would tell moms who say they have no time to deal with grief because they’re busy with their other kids
- why it’s important for moms to take the time to process their grief and trauma
- how she feels now, 5 years after she did the grief work
Megan’s story is such a testament to the fact that PTSD is not a life sentence and that healing is possible. She shows us that as long as you do the deep work of grief, you can learn to carry it and walk side by side with both grief and joy in your life.
“How do you grieve one child and say hello to another within such a short period of time?” – Megan
“The grief work is exhausting. It is tiring. It’s painful. It’s messy. It’s ugly. It’s not very fun but it is absolutely necessary.” – Megan
“If we don’t get curious, we can’t change anything.” – Megan
“Everything that I talk about is a choice you get to make but it’s really giving you the reins back in your life. So, you gotta choose rather than just being in this place of continual suffering without getting a choice in it.” – Megan
“If you want to be the best mom for your kids, if you want to be that mom that you wanna be, you have to take care of yourself. You have to take care of your emotions. You have to take care of your grief. You have to slow down and pushing through does not help.” – Megan
“I“I know it can feel like you don’t have any choice but to keep going. But I promise you, if you don’t take that time to care for the grief and the emotions, it will catch up to you in some way or another.” – Megan
“Grief does not rule my life.” – Megan
“I’ve learned how to live with grief. I’ve learned how to carry it. And I also know how to carry joy.” – Megan